朋友当然不是玻璃做的

朋友当然不是玻璃做的，但是有许多人总是把朋友当做玻璃，小心翼翼，恐怕把朋友碰坏了。。。

所以有时候，明明对朋友很不满，却也不敢表达出来。害怕一旦表达了不满，就会发生冲突；一旦发生冲突，就会伤害感情；一旦伤害感情，就会失去这个朋友，为了一件小事失去一个朋友，太不值得了，于是就忍耐朋友的冒犯，然后，偷偷的在肚子里生气。。。

一个大学里的男孩子说，他的好朋友特不像话，这个朋友在大学两年，几乎从来不做功课，都是让他替他做；而且这个朋友还经常在大庭广众中，说不用担心，他会帮我的；他很希望这个朋友有一天能意识到不应该这样做。但是这个粗心的朋友却一点改变的迹象都没有。

“你是怎样对待他的这些行为的呢？”

“我能怎么样？我假装不在意。”

“那么他怎么知道你不高兴呢？”

“他应该知道呀？”

“你认为他有特异功能吗？知道你在想什么？既然你做出不在意的样子,他当以为你不在意；既然他以为你不在意，当然他也就不会改了。”

“我知道我应该表达自己的情绪，但是，我害怕他生气，害怕影响我们的友谊。虽然他有些不好的地方。为了这些事情失去一个朋友不值得。所以我就认了。”

之所以有这样的想法，是因为他们都对友谊有一种很美好的期待：希望朋友最好永远没有争吵，没有愤怒，永远互相理解。在他们的心目中，一旦出现了冲突就意味着友谊破灭。因而，他们只好回避冲突，结果反而让自己和对方之间都不愉快。

其实，并不是发生了冲突友谊就只好告终一条路。因为我们还有“和解”的技巧可用。友谊是一幅双方共同描绘的图画，当画出了什么问题，和解就好似我们手里的像皮或者刮刀，那么画错了一笔就意味着这幅画要作废。有了橡皮和刮刀，你的画就可以继续画下去。

为什么有些人把朋友当做玻璃一样，不敢去碰，最重要的原因，就是他们不会是用橡皮和刮刀，甚至他们不曾意识到有橡皮刮刀这类东西存在。他没的友谊就像玻璃，一旦破了，只能抛弃。所以他们只好小心翼翼，在这个过程中，自己被压抑着，怎么能感到快乐呢？

因此，和解是交友中的必须学习的技巧。如果你懂得如何和解，在交往中，你就有了更大的自由。你会敢于表达自己对朋友的意见，敢于坚持自己，敢于冒产生冲突的危险。因为你知道，即使友谊一时受到伤害，你也有办法消除这个后果，让友谊恢复到从前。

和解是非常简单的，它是僵持后你主动说的一句话，是你错之后送他一个拥抱，是一个友好的微笑，是一个小礼物...只要你们真的有友谊存在，和解就这样完成了。

不会和解的人，害怕表达对朋友的意见，结果纵容了朋友的缺点，这样维持的友谊是不牢靠的，总有一天会维持不下去。而恰恰是不怕冲突的人，及时把不满表达出来，通过交流解决了朋友间的不和谐，才会有真正长久的友谊。

毕竟，朋友不是玻璃做的，如果有一个朋友真的想玻璃一样，不许你碰一下，这样的朋友破了就破了吧。

give up o continue gv support??

haiz...2day nid 2 submit my assignment of tamadun islam lo..
yesterday nite ..didn't sleeo whole day
juz waiting my son's work
but unfortunately he didn't send 2 me..
finally i done it for him..
he juz send me a messages : ah ba ..sry a ..i juz done in half way..
can u forgive me..
i didn't reply his messages..
juz ignore him..
i really dun knw what can i do for them...

1st i aldy give up 2 him le....>>khuan chong
i dun wan what can i say ...
i never say that the competition is not a good choice..
since ur education o study also cannot settle down ...
where got time let u do another thing ne...
is not i wan 2 scold u ...but u had changed...
not like b4 le...do u notice that....
may b u wont....bt i notive that long long time ago le
i never care u choose that way..
but anywhere can u focus in what u should do now...
may b u will think i am noise o stupid....o too care u ...very over
i knw v juz friends like brother...
but not really brother ....not related v u some more
i let u be important ppl in my life
since u wan do like that ..i also accepted u ...
v r not so friendly like b4 ..do u notice that...
last time ...do u still remember how v fun v each other...
may b this few week ....juz can let us continue our fun n other
after that i think v will separated .....our group also break le
if u really wan continue like that...i juz can say ....sorry 2 u ....
i dun knw what can i do for u again le...

2nd is xai xuan...my oldest son....
u also ...i dun knw what can i help u...
scold also scold b4.....angry also angry b4.....
listen also listen b4.....mention also mention b4.....
but u still keep like that ..
u skip class....i cannot say what ...because i also always skip class...
but unless i hv copy the note ...knw what the teacher teach...
but u always stay at home ...what kind of thing so important ...can let u stay at home whole day
even u always sleep ...u say u very tired....
but do u knw that what u done in whole day...
play game + facebook + dota + msn + hp....
always let me worry about u only....
i dun knw how many days ..i can keep help u ...
because v going 2 finish our diploma le...
for the assignment of tamadun ....
i really angry ....1st time i ask how u done ...
u told me u forgot jor...ok nvm ...i gv u a part only nia...
juz write around 300-400 words ...from 2pm ...
until 2moro ...start class...u also cannot done for me ...
u knw u very disappointed 2 me lo ....
butt anywhere i aldy help u done it le....
what can i scold now....i can't
i waiting u whole day ...never sleep at all....
how ???? u tell me how ????
i rally dun knw le......SAD!!!

haiz..i knw i am not who u r ....
may at least i care about u 2 guy in my life....
but u 2 guy always make disappointed 2 me ..
what can i say ?????
what respond i wanna show 2 u ?????

angry >>> no

scold >>> no

ignore >>> no

trouble >>> no

sad <<< yes

quiet <<< yes

give up <<< yes

disappointed <<< yes

long time did't meet him le

i notice that i aldy hv few week
o few days didn't saw him ...
may be this is what the god done for me ..
in my mind ....i feel trouble n confuse at all
i dun knw how 2 face v him ...
may b i will hit him when i meet v him...

TROUBLE + PRESSURE = CONFUSE

ANGRY + CAN'T CONTROL = KILLING PPL

SMOKING + PRESSURE = RELAX

TROUBLE + CAN'T CONTROL = DANGEROUS

ANGRY + PRESSURE = TROUBLE

CONFUSE + RELAX = SMOKING

KILLING PPL + DANGEROUS = CAN'T CONTROL .....

Lazy attend the class

since now aldy week 4 le ...
juz finish my esei ..
bt actually i did't attend all the class...
because i am lazy ..not i am clever
i feel that class very boring
n nid 2 wake up so early
10am o 9am....may b for others will not so early
but for me ..i feel so early ...n very hard 2 wake up
ntg force me 2 attend the class...
so i always blur in the tutorial class...
some time i knw how 2 do ...
actually i juz lucky as i understand what teacher want..
so YY a ....x nid so surprise ...when i done my question on the board..
actually i juz simply simply do 1....
because some part v hv learn b4...
n this subject almost same v all the math subject as v learn b4
so u dun worry be happy ...
i knw what happen r u ....u juz dun understand at all...
bt at least u hv go attend the class....for me ....lazy only
even xx didn't attend the class....i cannot say anything..
because i also same v him ..x attend the class...
i really dun knw how 2 help them aldy ..
because u lazy ...since i wan help u ....also cannot do everything...
for now v juz got 3 week ..wanna go thought....
do u feel scare n worry abt it...
i c u never n never..
haiz bor mood at all...
still taking other ppl ....
never think by myself...
homework dun wan do ....class lazy attend ..
since i am a problem guy also ...
not ppl can help me ...juz thinking by myself...
for this few day ....i very easy angry ..
i also dun knw y .....may b some thing happen suddenly 2 me...
i can't accept in that time.....
but anyway i can find some way 2 release my pressure...

Situation

wat is right in one place mayb wrong in another~~

tis question is what i saw as my friend post it
actually tis question is very simple
but it may let ppl confuse also
what i think is ....
i dun like study at all...i think i was choosing a wrong situation
but my parent was think that education is important for me
tis is what i think for that question in above
actually study is not a problem for me
bt that pressure n mood
is a big problem for me

the situation may let me crazy
nowadays i juz a question turn around me
i cant think it out
so i always let me drunk at all
let my mind control me
i dun knw ask who come share v me
i also dun know choose which friend as i can share v him o her
i was very scare sharing my problem o question v other ppl
dun knw wan trust which 1
so that i always hide myself
because i think if i sharing something v my friend
also cant solve that problem
juz can release some pressure n mood
but after that ntg at all
some guy will say u share it v other o say out that problem
let other help u
it may help u n let u more good n better
at the end i choose dun wan share v other
sometime they knw ur problem n question is not a good way
may b they will laugh o tell u juz stupid n crazy n funny
for nowadays i never got a friends that i really trust at all
n can understand what i think

sometime i may try use this way 2 relax
bt fail..as i cant do that
i also dun knw what happen for me
include my gf i also wont tell her all my thing
so sry 2 my gf ...i not say i dun believe u
bt if i tell u ...juz add 1 more ppl in trouble
so better dun ....
how ne ??? how i can solve this problem ne
actually is very easy for me in last time
but for now i cant
because i knw *** very **** me
until i cant make any situation
when i get that messages
i try 2 ignore it
bt sometime this problem will come bk in my mind
i very trouble at all...
who can help me ne??? i think juz beer n ***** can help
i never think that he will done this for me ...
bt that things aldy happen in front of me
damn sad n surprise when i know that
i cannot write so many in here ..
because i knw that some guys n my friend will c my blog...
so sry at all la ...
i hope the trouble can get far away from me ...
take care

Result

long time didt enter here le
since i dun like enter..
half half la ...
because i juz enter here when i was sad o happy..
in this few days ..i aldy skip almost 2 week class...
y i done like that ..not i am very clever...
is because i feel that class very boring
since i never attend that class la
that subject is tamadun Islam n algebra...
i hear that name of the subjects .
i aldy feel very sien
i dun knw i still can continue study o x
because for nowadays i lost my study mood
i think the problem is juz finish the CNY
haven get bk the study mood


i also get my result le
no fail at all
but feel disappointed at all
may b other ppl will think me is very pretension
u aldy pass all the subject ..still sad for what ..
actually i wont think like that...
i had done all my best n my preparation was well
i hv try my best 2 score all subject in A ..
but when i get my result
i feel sad juz 2 subject get A
in that moment
i dun knw what my feeling
juz close that website n continue playing my facebook
somemore my son didnt get well result
n some other friends in our GENG
gambatae n take care for all my friends